Happy Together

Happy Together

On July 9th, I had a talk with Julian about how being happy now is the best and fastest way to have the life you want. Transcending challenges by choosing to be happy anyway allows you to still enjoy life, heal and transform them. Life is never perfect for anyone, so I figure I can choose to be happy and bring more joy into my life.

I learned about this attitude when reading the book, The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne. Here is the passage where this way of thinking is encouraged:

The shortcut to anything you want in your life is to BE and FEEL happy now! It is the fastest way to bring money and anything else you want into your life. Focus on radiating out into the Universe those feelings of joy and happiness…(pg. 100)

No matter what you have manifested in regards to your body, you can change it—inside and out. Start thinking happy thoughts and start being happy. Happiness is a feeling state of being. You have your finger on the “feeling happy” button. Press it now and keep your finger pressed down on it firmly, no matter what is happening around you…(pg 133).

I went to bed that night thinking about being happy. Later in the night, I had a dream about Robin.


We were in a grocery store. He looked like he did when he was in his early 60’s, before his illness. He was in good spirits. He smiled at me and said thank you to me for something, but now I don’t recall what he was thanking me for. In the dream, he was much taller than me. I put my arms around his waist and hugged him. (As an aside, physically he was 5’9” tall from what I read somewhere. I’m 5’10” tall, but in the dream, he towered over me). Then, he started singing, “we’ll be happy together…” Then he walked out of the store, pushing a grocery cart.

After I woke up, I spoke with Robin about the dream. I said to him that I knew the song he was singing, but couldn’t remember the band who sang it. I looked up, Happy Together, on YouTube and found that it was the song by The Turtles. I love this video and music from the 60’s. It made me smile just watching it:


It was such a nice message from him. He was picking up on the happy theme I was talking with Julian about a few hours before I went to bed. I also went grocery shopping earlier that day too, so it’s like he was mirroring my life in the dream and knew what I had been doing. It felt very much like a visit with Robin, so I take the dream as spirit communication with the use of song.

It is very common for loved ones in spirit to use music and song as a way of communicating and it’s probably even more likely if your loved one was a singer or musician. According to Faye Schindelka:

Afterlife Communications

Music seems to be a favorite means of afterlife communication used by the deceased. It seems that music is manipulated fairly easily by those experiencing life after death, perhaps due to its vibratory nature and unique frequency. Many who are grieving the death of a loved one have relayed experiences to me of hearing songs that are highly relevant to the deceased, playing at extremely unlikely yet opportune moments.

It is wonderful to me that Robin came to me in this dream, singing a few notes of this uplifting song. The way he sang it sounded just like the way The Turtles sang it, which was why I could recognize the song. If you read the lyrics, it’s actually quite a beautiful love song, maybe a bit idealistic. But many of us have probably felt that way about someone in our life at some point:

It’s true that feeling happy is good medicine. Having this dream about Robin contributed to my happiness all day. I’ve listened to the song a few times and it’s kept me in a happy place. Robin gave me a happy song that has been playing over and over in my head. This situation is also a positive example of the law attraction at work because talking about happiness with my husband  before I went to bed led to more happiness in the form of this dream about Robin.

Afterlife Communications

Yes, we are all happy together! I wish the same for you and your loved ones.

All my happy best to you,




Don’t be Overwhelming

Don’t be Overwhelming


During the summer of 2012, I had been vigorously studying books and websites on afterlife communication. A few of them said to ask your loved ones in spirit for a sign and it could be anything you could think of. I was new to this type of communication, so it really helped to hear from those more experienced how you could connect with loved ones in spirit with a sign, specific or non-specific, simply by asking. The message usually was to go ahead and ask because they in spirit can do it. They can get the message to you, even if it’s not exactly what you asked for.

I think I took this advice to heart a little too much, as I was soon to find out….

One morning as I lay in bed, I asked Robin for a sign that he was there. I asked to hear his song “Another Lonely Night in New York” as the sign. It didn’t matter where I heard it.

It could be a grocery store, or radio, or even someone else’s radio I heard when driving down the road.

If I heard it, I would take that as the sign from him. I thought that by being open to the different ways the song could manifest, I was being helpful by being open.

I was wrong about that.

After I made my request, I fell back asleep. I then received one of the most amazing dreams of my life. In my dream, Robin’s brother Maurice, who is also deceased, came to me. In the dream we were in an empty room with beige walls, just the two of us. I asked Maurice, “Where is Robin?” He answered, “What you want is overwhelming for him.” Next, we stood there looking at each other for a few moments. In the dream, I remember feeling like I was confused about what he meant. The dream ended with me saying to Maurice, “Hugging you is like hugging Robin.” We gave each other a hug and then he was gone. The dream was over.

When I woke up, I clearly remembered the dream, but I was confused about what Maurice meant at the time, still groggy from sleep. I lay there in bed and pondered, “What I want is overwhelming for him. What do you mean?” Then the light bulb went off in my mind and I remembered that right before I went to sleep, I had asked for a sign, the song “Another Lonely Night in New York”. Maurice came to me in my dream to tell me that it was too overwhelming for Robin to send me that particular song as a sign.

It figures that of all the Bee Gees songs, I would choose that one!! I really like it, but it’s not played on the radio, so I’m sure that’s why it would be overwhelming. Why didn’t I ask for “Staying Alive” lol!

I was stunned. The implications of what had just happened boggled my mind. Our loved ones are real and still very much alive in spirit. Some are able to hear us (I cannot speak for all) and respond clearly and intelligently.

For some reason, Robin was unable to come to me in my dream to let me know that he could not send me the song as a sign. Maybe he did not want to! But Maurice could. Somehow, Maurice got the message to come tell me what Robin could not, perhaps because he was still adjusting to his new life in Spirit. Robin had been very sick with cancer before he died and I could see how he could have needed some time to heal.  I had asked for this sign within a couple of months of his death, so it would make sense that he was still adjusting. Maurice had been deceased for about 9 years.  It seems as Maurice was sent as an emissary to me to let me know that, no can do, Robin cannot send me the sign I asked for. But here’s the clincher:

Maurice coming to me in my dream to let me know that what I wanted was overwhelming IS the sign! How amazing and loving of Robin and Maurice to let me know they heard my request, but sorry, Robin can’t do it. I was shocked by this visitation by Maurice and the fact that he could hear me. This told me that Robin and Maurice are together in Spirit. I think Maurice heard me because he is together with Robin, which of course, one would expect.

Perhaps Robin asked Maurice to come and let me know he could not deliver that sign. Maybe Maurice came on his own, having heard my request, and knowing Robin was unable to send me the sign I asked for, came to tell me himself. An important note is that Maurice co-wrote this song with Robin, so it is his song too! Either way, I know Robin received my request that day and cared enough to let me know he couldn’t do it, even if he had to send Maurice.

I am still in awe of this, what I would call, 3-way Spirit communication: me in the physical realm and Robin and Maurice in the spirit realm. They received my request and let me know within a matter of hours what the answer was. I never have heard the song that I requested as a sign unless I played it for myself. They really meant it-too overwhelming! I understand that now, but at the time, I was just becoming familiar with Robin and the Bee Gees’ music again and I did not realize that song would be difficult to manifest.

Maurice and I never met either but obviously I knew who he was because of pictures and being Robin’s twin brother. Yet here he was, face-to-face with me in my dream, addressing what I had asked his brother. It was so interesting to meet Maurice in a dream like this. I was left wondering how this happens and where were we? Some say we visit the astral plane during our sleep time and this is where we can rendezvous with deceased loved ones.

I have realized that it is very limiting to think of the physical reality as the only reality.

Afterlife Lesson: Go ahead and ask your loved one for any sign you want, big or small, subtle or in your face. Just realize they reserve the right to say “no” if they can’t do it, just like we in the physical realm have the right to tell someone “no” when something asked of us is too overwhelming for us to do. I think this is very important for those of us in the physical realm to realize. I did not know this myself and I appreciate Robin and Maurice so much for letting me know.

I have learned that they still love us even if we ask too much sometimes.  Loved ones in spirit are very forgiving and I’m sure they understand spirit communication is as new to us as it is to them.  But once they say they can’t send a specific sign, I respect that and open to other ways they want to communicate. Every sign is a blessing and a miracle whether you got the specific one you asked for or not. Every day, I specifically invite signs, symbols, messages, communications and synchronicity to come into my life, but most of the time I leave it up to Robin or my other loved ones the particular details so they can have fun and surprise me.

After all, afterlife communication is meant to be fun and based on loving one another.

Dream Burst of Energy

Dream Burst of Energy

About a month and a half after his death, I had the most incredible and life-changing dream about Robin.

It’s one of the most important dreams of my life. I was not in the dream, but I was viewing what was going on, like looking in from the outside. There was a large, open room, painted cream-colored. There was nothing on the walls or anything else remarkable about this room.

Next, three black stools appear. Then the Bee Gees walk out into the room, Barry first, then Maurice and then Robin. They take a seat on the stools. After this, Robin’s face, from the neck up, appears in front of me, close up. He looks young with long hair, like he did in 1979, around the time he was 30 years old. He looked at me for a few seconds with a slight smile and kind look. The next thing that happened is that he sent me a strong burst of energy that knocked me awake. The burst of energy was so powerful that I was hanging out of bed from the strength of it.

That was the end of the dream. I was pretty disoriented as I had been woken up out of sleep. All I know is I must have fallen back asleep after that because I don’t remember anything else.

The next morning, the memory of the dream came right back to me and I asked Robin, out loud, “Did you send me a burst of energy?” I was perplexed, shocked and amazed. I remember this dream so vividly to this day because of the impact it had on me. He had made clear and undeniable contact with me. He was getting my attention in a very powerful way. His energy felt very strong, a clear sign that he had completely healed from his illness. The fact that he appeared very youthful is also consistent with the literature on afterlife communication.

The type of dream I had is called a visitation dream. In Visitation Dreams of Deceased Loved Ones: Understanding Their Message, Meaning, & Transformative Power, author Preston Ni writes about 8 characteristics of visitation dreams. One is that the dream feels very real, to the extent that even years later, as in my case, the dream feels like it just happened. I can still feel Robin’s energy, the energy I felt in the dream, and I emphasize, the strength of it. He felt super-charged and in turn, it has caused me to feel super-charged and energetic when I think of it.

Ni lists the next characteristic which is that our deceased loved ones often show up in our dreams as vibrant, healthy and young. That is because they are, now that they are back in spirit. Robin looked completely healed in the dream. The fact that he presented himself to me as young and healthy is consistent with the experiences I have shared with him over the years. Only a healthy, youthful spirit could do the things he has done. I will share some of these things with you later.

With this dream, I was given the reassurance that Robin is alive and well in Spirit! It also opened up the door to all kinds of questions about how Robin found out about me and why he would come visit me in my dreams. That is why this is such a spiritually transformative experience for me. It made me realize that there is more to me than the person everyone sees each day. It meant that someone that never knew me could find me and care enough about me to initiate a spiritual awakening with me. He woke me up literally, but also he was telling me to “Wake Up!” meaning, wake up to the truth that life continues after death. And, don’t just read about it. Experience the truth of it by feeling my energy. He also woke me up to the fact that we are connected spiritually in ways I never knew while he was incarnate.

In A Path with Heart: A Guide through the Perils and Promises of Spiritual Life, Jack Kornfield writes, “Sometimes it takes a shock to awaken us, to connect us with our path.” This life changing spiritual experience was the shock that led me to start asking myself some deep and perplexing questions. I started to wonder if Robin knew me from other lifetimes or perhaps the spirit world. I started to see myself just as much as a spiritual being as a human being, a spiritual being with a pre-existence before I incarnated into this current lifetime.