What do you do if you are already married when your twin soul in spirit comes back to you?
That depends on each individual situation and the people and spirits involved.
When Robin returned to me in 2012, I had already been married for 10 years. I wasn’t looking for a soul mate because I already had mine and I had never heard of twin souls, so that was not of concern to me.
I would say that you have to figure out what’s going on for yourself first before you can try to explain it to your spouse or partner. As I have written, I started having precise synchronicity and dream visits from Robin in 2012, as well as strong feelings that he was soul family. But, at that time, I did not know what to make of it. I didn’t know what was going on.
Additionally, for this situation, there is pretty much no one to talk to about it. Everything I have learned has been through my own research, study and what I have been given personally through afterlife communication. I have never seen a psychic or done a past-life regression because I did not know who I could really trust. At this point, six years later, I don’t feel the need to see a psychic because God and Robin have given me what I need to know. If for some reason I am guided to visit a psychic or do a regression in the future, I will write about it here if anything interesting is revealed.
I shared with my husband Julian what was going on. At first, he was skeptical and rightfully so I would say. He would tell me that Robin was this iconic singer, a part of music history and my childhood, so maybe that’s why I was having these experiences. He thought that maybe his death woke up some dormant feelings from my upbringing in Massachusetts. But, I really did not think that was it at all. Lots of famous actors and singers that I have liked have passed away. I didn’t feel compelled to contact them to say I feel like they’re a member of my soul family.
I kept sharing with Julian that I felt that Robin was a member of my soul family from the spirit world and how my certainty of that wasn’t going away. Then he too began to see the signs of Robin being around, as I wrote about in the Electrical Activity blog post.
As it became clear that Robin and I are twin souls, I explained it to Julian in terms of who we are as spirits. It’s much more of a spiritual connection than a human connection. I mentioned the identical nature of our soul hues of light that I wrote about in the Background section. But what really helped him understand is when I shared all of the life parallels I share with Robin. I think it took seeing all of this for him to accept it. I love him for it too.
It’s not an easy thing for a spouse to accept that the one they love and are married to, has a pre-existing spiritual connection and is now being contacted by that spirit. The best guidance I could give someone about this situation is to first clearly know and understand for yourself what is going on if you are contacted by a twin in spirit. Then, share the truth about what you have experienced and give clear examples. My experience is that the twin in spirit will also help with this by initiating powerful afterlife communication that you cannot doubt. They may also leave evidence around your home as Robin did with the infinity symbols, as one example.
If your partner sees the evidence, and believes, it will be difficult for them deny the connection. Not all spirits are going to do what Robin did, but hopefully, they will come up with their own unique way to provide evidence and give their twin on earth some proof. And if the twin was famous, you need even more proof, not just for your spouse, but for yourself as well.
I also think it’s important to make it extra clear how much you love your spouse or partner and that the twin soul in spirit coming back is not a threat to your love and marriage. That’s what I said to Julian. I feel very strongly that no twin in spirit has the right to break up a pre-existing marriage, especially when the couple is happy and love each other. Robin was married and has children and grand-children, so I too have the right to have my husband and family. Twins that did not meet have other loves, soul mates and connections and that always has to be respected. Robin and I share that mutual respect. I respect his family and he respects mine.
I love my husband with all of my heart. I have known him for over 20 years and he has been here for me through all of the ups and downs of life. We share a forever love, just as Robin does with his wife and soul mate. Robin and I also love each other forever as spiritual partners. This may sound complicated, but it’s what I have been given in this life. It may also sound weird, but some things are true whether they’re weird or not :)!
I consider it a blessing in terms of my spiritual growth and progression as I have been given a deeper understanding of spiritual love. After Robin’s passing and the integration of his spiritual energy into my life, I moved outside of the realm of traditional earthly relationships. I became more aware of my multi-dimensional nature and have a greater understanding that love is inclusive, as it is in Spirit. When he came back, I opened my heart and life to him so we could get to know each other again and explore what our connection is about.
Things have worked out well for us over the years after coming to this understanding of the situation. Julian has embraced some of Robin’s style. For example, he has several pair of eyeglasses with blue tinted lenses, just as Robin did. He really likes the glasses that Robin wore, so he decided to get some of his own. In some ways, he’s a lot like Robin in that he’s very sensitive and creative. Julian’s creativity is with writing and poetry.
About four years ago, I found an article that addresses very well, the situation of twin souls who are in committed relationships with other people. The article that I found at the time was called, Twin Flame Understanding in Indigenous Cultures. Now the article is called, A Twin Flame Relationship-A Sacred Love, by Michael Rice. I share this important excerpt here and bold the parts that are very pertinent for this discussion. I feel that the way he articulated this is spot on in terms of my own experience, so I could relate very well to it. The only difference is that he is talking about two twins that are embodied, not my situation. It still applies though:
Some characteristics of the Reunion are shared by many; such as the initial meeting being wholly unexpected and unanticipated, and in many cases unwanted. Both Twins may already be in solid committed relationships, many with family and fully established lives. Both Twins will have evolved independently, to the point of being relatively happy in themselves, and quite sure of their purpose and mission. Normally, this union tends to be between two relatively evolved souls. However, when they meet, and recognize each other, a process begins that can challenge and disrupt their lives in ways that neither could have imagined.
Traditionally, when this happened in indigenous cultures, there was an understanding of the phenomenon; and the tribe, village or community would support both families in moving towards the potential – as it was believed to be something that would eventually benefit and elevate everyone.
However, in today’s society, there is oftentimes not this level of awareness and compassion, and the Twins movement towards their shared destiny is seen as fundamentally ‘bad’ and destructive.
But it must be remembered that the ultimate reality of this relationship is to explore and express Love in a way that can inspire and guide others to do the same. The experience invites and offers the Twins a profound opportunity to reach towards and make manifest a Love that knows no bounds or limits; a Love that can carry them and anyone who feels the energy, to a deeper sense of Self Love and desire to serve all of Life. It involves the generation of a shared destiny that is far greater than either Twin could realize on their own.
The most difficult part of the process can be the desire to integrate the relationship into pre-existing structures. Many times this is just not possible. One or both Twins may feel that it is all a bit too much, and collapse or retreat back into their previous lives. Other times both Twins strive courageously, and with great faith and imagination, to build a life that honors the truth of who they are to their Twin, and their very real existing commitments to their families and communities. Ultimately, this relationship is borne from Love, and it is elevated by Love. And as with so much else in the human experience, the level of difficulty and pain experienced and expressed is a perfect reflection of the level of resistance (individual and collective) to what IS, or what is meant to be.
I have chosen to build my life in a way that honors the truth of who I am to Robin as his twin and my very real, existing commitment to my husband Julian. I choose to honor both.
This is my answer to the question, “What if you’re married?” It’s not the easiest path but one I can honestly say has elevated and benefited all three of us. I had no desire to resist this experience with Robin, but I sought to understand it, learn and grow. Actually, I invited it when I called to him from my soul. Now I’m sharing it with you, for your spiritual benefit.
If you are married and also have a twin in spirit that came back to you, I dedicate this to you. Even if that is not you, I hope you still benefited from this post.